John Nolten

Flirting is so much fun, at least when you get two people on the same page who are both having great fun engaging in it.

Take control of your life

There is nothing more attractive than someone who is in charge of their own life. That means you can choose how you spend your time and nobody forces you to. If now you decide to spend time with someone, they know it is from your honest heart and interest.

Cuddling seems so simple, which is probably why it is barely touched on (hah) in sex ed, or at any other point in life. Nobody ever tells you about the rules and laws, how to get there and how not to mess things up.

You can immediately tell which direction the water flows down

Which is to say: This pair is not alike, and not in a good, refreshing way. There’s the silent guy following in the wake of the communicative, active chick, or the silent woman in the presence of a strong, assertive guy.

Flirting is fun, quirky, all kinds of awkward and exhilarating - and few people have the confidence to get to the really good parts. We as society are drilled to fear the other gender, that’s what decades of misogyny and feminist zealotry on either end of the spectrum have left us with.

Good datenights are fun and awkward, and thereby twice as fun. They work wonders for building, stabilizing, or saving relationships from impending doom, but finding a good idea can seem daunting.